Rules to Live By: Jealous? (cue Kim Kardashian's voice)


I've talked a bit about dating and hooking up (here, here, here, here, oh, and here), so I suppose it's time I talk about actual relationships. If there is one thing that can ruin a relationship before it even has a chance to blossom (did I really just say blossom?)'s definitely jealousy.

I saw a status on Facebook a while ago that said, "A jealous girl is a faithful girl..."

Here are my thoughts...

A jealous girl is an insecure girl; therefore faithful by default. She has most likely been cheated on or treated poorly in the past, and thinks that in order to keep her man, she needs to be a stage five clinger. To a certain degree, guys love this. Guys who don't know better, that is. This automatically gives them the upper hand because they know they can do anything and that girl isn't going anywhere.

And maybe that's okay when you're in high school, or even college, but when you grow up (or when you should have already grown up), let's be honest; who wants that type of girl?

And more importantly; who wants to be that type of girl?

That type of girl can only hang out with her friends when her boyfriend is busy, is CONSTANTLY texting or calling the guy, will fight with the guy in public and has ZERO shame about it, and of course, of-fucking-course, she's the girl with the, "Hanging out with my baby! I love him so much!" status.

In other words, that type of girl is not my friend.
I'm embarrassed for you. I really am.

Here's what: you are always (100% of the time) going to be the crazy, jealous girlfriend if you get into a relationship before you are ready. You need to be happy by yourself. Repeat that! YOU NEED TO BE HAPPY BY YOURSELF before you're ever going to be happy with someone else. And when you're not secure with who you are, you feel insecure about who you are dating. Period.

I've dated guys before I was ready, and you know how that ended? Me stalking the fuck out of them, and looking absolutely insane in the process. Picture me; blood-shot eyes, gripping the steering wheel, driving around town, saying "Where is he? What is he doing? Why isn't he answering me?"

That's not because I was faithful...that's because I was jealous and crazy.

SN: I actually told a guy one time, "Don't fuck with me. I'm fucking crazy!"
That didn't work out. Can you imagine why not?

When you're comfortable in your own skin, and in your relationship, jealousy isn't an issue.

That particular status went on to say, "...if she doesn't get jealous when someone has your attention, it's because someone has hers" but that, my friends, is an entirely different post.

What's your experience with jealousy?