2016 Life Lessons

I know what you're thinking: it's only January 15th, how the hell can I possibly have life lessons already? But I do. I feel like I've lived 5 years in the past two weeks, but I'm on the upswing and I have some things I want to share with you.

1. Be brave.

With your words. With your actions.

Something happened recently with a guy I was talking to and I was completely blindsided by it. I have spent the past week and a half going through a myriad of emotions: anger, sadness, contentment, relief, RAGE, back to sadness. But in the midst of everything I sat down and wrote him a very honest email and I hit send. Did things turn out the way I would have hoped? No, not entirely. But through all of the feels I've felt, I haven't felt regretful. I came to the table, showed all of my cards, and I walked away empty handed. But I was brave and I tried, and that's more than I can say for 2015 Alissa.

2. Build a great support group and allow them help you when you need it.

Asking for help is incredibly difficult for me, but I've found friends who offer it up without me having to say a word. My cousin called on her own accord last week and talked with me for over an hour. My friend Emily, who was a week past her due date at the time, was texting *me* to see how *I* was feeling. Other friends offered to meet me for dinner, to spend the weekend doing whatever I wanted to do.

These are the kind of people you want in your corner. And remember to be in their corners, too.

3. Take a personal day if you need one.

That's what they're there for.

By Tuesday night I felt like I had been used as a punching bag, and I knew there was no way I could show up to work the next day and be anything except a lump in my chair. So, I called in. I went to a spin class in the morning and a kickboxing class at night, and spent the time in between napping and watching Parenthood. It was exactly what I needed.

4. Show up and do the work.

Last night my spin instructor said to the class, "It's great that you guys are here, but unless you're here to work, you should've just stayed home."

And it really made me think.

Sometimes showing up uses all of your energy, and that's okay. You can't be expected to 100% at all times, always. But you have to be accountable to yourself - to put the work, to grow stronger, to realize what you want and how you're going to get it.

I am where I am today because I spent three years focusing on myself, by myself, for myself -- and if that sounds like a quote from Pinterest, it's because IT IS a quote from Pinterest.

But it's also the truth.

I have no fucking clue what the rest of 2016 has in store for me, but I know that I'm ready-- win, lose, or draw.