day seven: advice (your own or otherwise)

I'm 31.

I've never been 31 before.

I've never been 31, single, questioning if I want a husband or babies or if I only feel pressure to have those things because I live in suburbia and that's just what people do.

I'm thirty fucking one and I'm still figuring out how to wear my hair and shape my eyebrows.

I'm 31 and learning how to do my taxes, how to keep a cactus alive, how to hang a picture frame without putting 17 holes in the wall.

I'm 31 and asking myself: should I freeze my eggs?


My advice is this: I've never been here before, and wherever you are in your life-- you've never been there before, either. Relax. Give yourself some credit for how far you've come.

Stop worrying that you don't have it all figured out, because guess what? Nobody does.

Don't waste your time thinking you should have more money, or a bigger house, or a rock on your figure, or a baby on your hip.

We get one go at this. Have fun with it.